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The rise against inirtia

One of the last classes I needed to graduate from college was Physical Science and it left its coruscate mark on me. To this day, I still remember everything I learned from that five week Spring term death march course.

To summarize, there are three laws of motion.

That’s the bulk of it. That’s all I’ve got.

Oh, wait! I also remember there was a vending machine just down the stairs from the lecture hall and I used to buy a package of Swedish fish before class and while the professor lectured I’d press them one by one against the roof of my mouth and suck them until they dissolved and turned my teeth red.

Ok, Ok. So I don’t actually remember what the three laws of motion are, but google does. And HE doesn’t grade me or judge me for not knowing like my teenage sons do.

Google says that Issac Newton laid the foundation for classical mechanics when he presented three laws of motion describing the relationship between a body and the forces acting upon it, and its motion in response to those forces. The first law of motion, also called the law of inertia, states that an object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

Think of a package being dropped from a moving airplane. The package will continue falling at the speed at which the airplane is moving until an external force, in this case, gravity, makes velocity change.

Gravity hurts. Trust me. We are long time frenemies.

And some days I think gravity is not the only thing out to get me. If my life follows its current trajectory, the object in motion will only rest when it hits me on my head.

And that object in motion will most likely be an anvil.

#wyliecoyote

Each day we encounter a constant barrage real life examples of Newton’s First Law of Motion.

A child at rest will stay at rest until you take your iPad back.

A sleeping teenager will stay a sleeping teenager unless acted upon by an unbalanced force. Also known as his mother.

#hormonesforthewin

The laws of motion are not to be taken lightly. Especially if your child at rest is prone to throwing the ipad at rest at you. I know the risks! Nevertheless, I have a confession. The truth is, despite my shiny, rule keeping good girl exterior, I am  a delinquent at heart, an Olivia Newton John wanna be (oh good grief! Google Grease the Musical) I’m a criminal, a con. Because every day I’m fighting the law.

Every. Single. Day, it’s a high noon show down! Hands tense and ready, guns drawn, eyes narrowed between me and that good for nothing son of a gun inertia. #lockedandloaded

Inertia does not blink, especially when it comes to pitting your will against…your will.

Study for a test or hang out with friends?

Go to the gym or watch a movie?  

In order to change behavior, especially conduct that has been in motion OR in rest for a long, long time; ie. ingrained behavior, you have to show what you’re made of . She have to put forth dedicated, concerted, unyielding, dedicated effort. Dammit!

This is where the second law of motion comes in, according to Newton, an object will only accelerate if there is a net or unbalanced force acting upon it. The presence of an unbalanced force will accelerate an object – changing its speed, its direction, or both its speed and direction.

in other words, you will start to change when the force of your will to change, is greater than the force to stay the same.

 

Humans in many ways, follow the principle of inertia. We like to take the road most traveled and best paved. Unless of course you are following google maps in Albania, or let your husband drive. So much of our behavior runs on autopilot that it takes a significant degree of effort (think herclein) to take simple actions outside of our normal routine even to just recognize that we are engaged in cruise control. Studies prove a body in motion is likely to stay in motion, even if all that a body is doing is eating cake. well, at least until the cake is gone. Then you have to move on to cookies.

And a body at rest is likely to stay at rest. One of the biggest obstacles to change or even just to staying in motion is committing to too much and becoming overwhelmed.

And not stocking up on cake. Duh.

#problemsolved

There are two primary types of forces in the context of human behavior.

I mean besides a toddler.

Just as there are in physics: forces that get in the way of performing a behavior is called friction. Maybe you’ve experienced friction? I mean I don’t have a ton of experience personally, wink wink, but my friends tell me its like when you suddenly feel exhausted when it’s time to exercise, or the craving to watch one more netflixs hits you with the force of first love when you have already stayed up wayyyy past your planned upon bedtime. And even though you know giving in is only going to lead to a netflix and chill hangover in the morning, . Friction is also the barriers we encountered when trying to deal with an un-cross-outable task on our to do list. Like dealing with an insurance claim, where the agent transfers you to another agent who transfers you to her supervisor who transfers you to a call center in Singapore, who hangs up on you, And each time you call back you get a new agent who finally solves your problem by informing you that you that you don’t have a child named logan, even though the bladder he ruined INSISTS that you do, every time you cough or wake up at 2 am to pee.

Friction is anything that makes a behavior more appealing.

So if friction slows you down, think wind, weather, rain, children, showering, parent teacher conferences, chocolate. Then what propels you forward is fuel. Fuel, I am told, is not just sugar and DDP (diet dr pepper) although I”ve yet to see any conclusive evidence to the contrary.

For me, fuel comes in the wretched oily Serverice Snape form of self care or letting go of thought patterns that insist if I dont cange everything all at once, I’m a failure. Fuel to break through initia and becaome an object in motion again, I have found the thing that helps me most is accepting that I can’t change everything or even anthign all at once.

A body in motion is likely to stay in motion, even if all that a body is doing is eating cake and a body at rest is likely to stay at rest. A body eating cake feels problematic is likely to staty eating cake . One of the biggest obstacles to staying in motion is committing to too much and becoming overwhelmed.

When it comes to improving, Im trying to learn to change the way I think. letting go of traditional attempts of changing everything simultaneously, and instead, sharpen my focus on trying to hange only one thing at a time.

like buying more cake.

For me it’s easy to look at the science behind behavior or write a tidy explanation of what you need to do to make a change, but the actually nitty gritty of doing it, the actual rising against inertia;

Woof.

Still, it can be done. It has been done. Watch a Disney Movie, Read Harry Potter! There is indisputable evidence that change is possible.

Although, it might mean you have to change from being a fetal ball at rest.

Don’t panic! I know your legs are dead from a lack of blood flow, but afte a minute it will start to feel good to uncurl, stand up, move forward.

The trick is taking that first shaky step, sparking a catalyst of courage, igniting a flame,

an other unbalanced force to push against MY unbalanced force, that pushes me to  get crap done.

Basically I need a wife.  

Which mail order brides are in limited quanities what with the pandemc and visa restrictions!

#doihavetodoeverything

It starts by wrapping yourself around a tiny seed of what if; cuping the desire for courage to try, again. with your palms and drining int down in one swift swallow! Then slamming ithe cub down and crying that a beffy braided viking, another! Except don’t do that becauess it’s your hands you are cuping

Even after falling, try again.

again.

and again.

and again.

#beentheredonethatgotthetshirt

Humans in many ways follow the principle of inertia. We take the road most traveled and best paved, unless of course you are following google maps or let your husband drive. So much of our behavior runs on autopilot that it takes a significant degree of effort (think herclein) to take simple actions outside of our normal routine A body in motion is likely to stay in motion, even if all that a body is doing is eating cake. well, at least until the cake is gone. then the body will move on to cookies. and a body at rest is likely to stay at rest. One of the biggest obstacles to change or even just to staying in motion is committing to too much and becoming overwhelmed.

And not stocking up on cake. Duh.

#problemsolved

There are two primary types of forces in the context of human behavior. I mean besides a toddler. just as there are in physics: forces that get in the way of performing a behavior are called “friction” maybe you’ve experienced friction; feeling exhausted when it’s time to exercise, or the craving to watch one more netflixs before bed, which eventally leads to a chill hangover, to the barriers encountered when trying to deal with an insurance claim, where the agent transfers you to another agent who transfers you to a call center in Singapoor to another agent who keeps asuring you that you don’t have a child named logan, but the bladder he ruined INSIST that you do every time you cough or wake up at 2 am to pee.

Frition is anything that makes a behavior more appealing. Avoiding calling the insurance agent. Gettin your netflix chill on instead of getting your gym sweat on.

So if friction slows you down (wind, weather, rain, children, showering, then what propells you forward is fuel. Fuel, I am told, is not just sugar and ddp. it comes in The wretched oily form of self care or letting go of thought patterns that insist you cange everything at once To break through initia and becaome an object in motion again, I have found the thing that helps me most is accepting that I can’t change everything or even anthign all at once.

A body in motion is likely to stay in motion, even if all that a body is doing is eating cake and a body at rest is likely to stay at rest. A body eating cake feels problematic is likely to staty eating cake . One of the biggest obstacles to staying in motion is committing to too much and becoming overwhelmed.

When it comes to improving, Im trying to learn to change the way I think. letting go of traditional attempts of changing everything simultaneously, and instead, sharpen my focus on trying to hange only one thing at a time.

like buying more cake.

Mother Teresa said,

I believe we can change, that I can change; especially when I remember to start small, and start today.

I can do that.

I can break life up into bite size pieces, and deal with each small piece.

Start small. Start today. Start with a cupcake.

consistency, not brilliance. Which a relief because we haven’t even gotten into what I remember from math.

I have to believe I can be an object moving towards my goals even if the trajectory of my life, the choices I have made or not made,and shot me forward in. adiffernt direction and teh fetal ball I have gotten exceptionally good at rolling into feels as warm as. ahug. I am excetpionally good at fetal balls . I mean think savant good. The secrets in the tuck.

And so, fighting the law is what I’m doing.
I am an object at rest, trying to change one small thing to help me be an object at LESS rest.

Hope is the fuel I run on, and courage is the oil. they keep my engine running even if I’m not a mechanic.

science also proves it’s about consistency, not brilliance. Which a relief because we haven’t even gotten into what I do or do not remember from math.

#chocoaltecakeinmotion

Inertia

Also whenever I think of rising, I think of this poem by Maya Angelou.

English classes were not the ones I avoided in college; mmmmmmmmm wordy.

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
 
Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.
 
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.
 
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?
 
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.
 
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
 
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
 
Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
 
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.
 
 

Maya Angelou, 19282014

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English classes were not the ones I avoided in college; mmmmmmmmm wordy.

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